'Bachelorette': Becca Kufrin's Relationship Status Unclear After Fiance's "Tone Deaf" Social Media Post
On the latest episode of Bachelor Happy Hour, hosts Becca Kufrin and Rachel Lindsay had an open and honest discussion about tensions in the country and about Kufrin's fiancé Garrett Yrigoyen's controversial social media post.
Former Bachelorette's Discuss Black Lives Matter
The former Bachelorettes Rachel Lindsay and Becca Kufrin have been having deep conversations about the Black Lives Matter movement and last week's episode was especially important because of a post on social media by Becca's fiancé Garrett Yrigoyen.
Both women are very good at articulating what they think and feel while being careful not to hurt anyone, like when Colton Underwood opened up to Becca about his virginity and she stepped away to gather her thoughts to be as gentle and accepting as possible with him. Rachel (until now) was the only person of color lead in the entire 24 seasons of the Bachelor and 15 seasons of the Bachelorette history and has been a strong voice in the fight for change.
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This entire week has been the most difficult, & quite frankly I'm anxious for the assortment of responses that will be sent about today's BHH podcast. Ultimately I have to look beyond myself & my feelings because what we cover in it is so much bigger & important than me. So with that preface, I'm going to take a moment to give some thoughts (unfortunately I can't say them all in 1 post, but I hope my future actions speak louder than any words I can say). Throughout the episode, Rachel & I talk about what has been taking place across our country, the Black Lives Matter Movement, underlying issues of white privilege, diversity & changes that can take place within systems like the Bachelor Franchise. This conversation was the hardest, most uncomfortable, but important ones that we've had. I value my friendship with Rachel. I also value my partnership with Garrett. So this is really effing hard. As it should be. I will be the first to admit that listening to this back, I came up short. Very short. I listen to this & wish I had said more, wish I could have expressed myself better, wish I could have given so much more than I did. I think to myself "I didn't ask the right questions," "I threw out the incorrect phrases," "I didn't defend my fiancé," "why couldn't I back up my thought process better?" The list goes on & on. So where do I go from here? I can't re-record this episode. I can't go back & change my words (or lack there of). I can only try to move forward with what I believe is right, how to accept, be patient, & show care to others - especially for those who are hurting most right now. It that starts with a heart change (as Rachel so eloquently put it at the end - so I hope you've all listened through.) As an individual, I have the ability to use my voice, to use my platform, to have uncomfortable conversations during time-changing moments like this because it matters. It's important. Each day brings on a brand new challenge, conversation, & new lesson. I welcome them & I hope you do too. If I've learned anything throughout these past 2 years, it's that we have the beautiful capability to be better than the day before, so that's what I'm trying my damndest at
After Garrett posted a lengthy statement about his support of the police and how they are being victimized, Becca was shaken up and had a difficult time expressing herself. She addressed how she failed her cohost and listeners in that episode. "I want to first start by saying Rachel, I owe you an apology... I fell short last week because this conversation... deserved my complete, undivided attention. It deserved much more care and thoughtfulness on my end. You delivered all of that and more and I did not," she told Rachel.
Becca Kurfin On Her Relationship Status With Garrett Yrigoyen
Addressing fans Becca said: "For those who are curious about my relationship with Garrett at this point, all I can say right now is that I don't know. I can't give anything more than that."
"Garrett is my fiancé and I love him and to his core, I believe that he is a good person," Kufrin said about Garrett's post "I don’t align with and I don’t agree with," and "I don’t think he meant it in a malicious way. I do think it was tone-deaf, and it was the wrong time and message and sentiment." Apparently, Garrett's close police officer friend was shot during one of the riots which emotionally affected him.
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I've been pretty tore up the past week about everything going on. I've listened, learned, helped, supported, and grown. With so many friends and family in law enforcement I couldn't sit back and not support them and the hundreds of thousands of men and women of all races that represent this Thin Blue Line as well. It's important for me to recognize the ones who stand in the gap and put their lives on the line each and every single day for humans of different race and ethnicity, including those who hate them. The Thin Blue Line represents each officer protecting protestors, properties, and businesses while being threatened, attacked, shot, shot at, hit with vehicles, and other forms of brutality. There have been over 300 injured, shot, or killed in just one week. They are suffering the consequences over an act they didn't commit. They continue to put in overtime away from their families, stay silent while being threatened, hated, and assaulted. We can't judge an entire group of people by the actions of a few. We can't judge the peaceful protesters by the actions of the few violent protesters, and we sure can't judge all cops by the actions of a few bad ones. Remember when they put on the badge they're still humans, with raw emotion, the more brutality they face the more on edge they become, they make mistakes, they have compassion, and no matter how terrible they are treated or whatever negative is said to them, they still show up for us when we need them! Remember these men and women who hold this Thin Blue Line; strangers, friends, family, neighbors, or your enemies. They will always be out there protecting us, no matter what! #thinblueline #antiracism #antibrutality
Becca's friend Bekah Martinez whom she was in Ari's season of the Bachelor with commented on Garrett's post saying "Here's the thing: being black is not a uniform you can remove on your days off, it definitely does not protect you from the justice system, it is not something you get PAID to be, and it is most certainly not something you can quit or retire from. STOP COMPARING THE EXPERIENCE OF A CHOSEN CAREER TO THE EXPERIENCE OF BEING BLACK. You can choose to support cops AND understand that the 'thin blue line' flag now represents and signals BLUE LIVES MATTER to the majority of the population."
The Bachelorette's Rachel Lindsay and Becca Kufrin Discuss Garrett's Problematic Post
In the podcast, Becca Kufrin explained that she was listening to her friend Rachel and wants to show her full-blown support saying: "It's something you've been fighting for and have been so vocal about in this franchise for years now ... and I hear you when you say things need to change. I agree with you. I want to throw my voice behind yours to amplify that message to say let it not stop there."
Rachel was clearly grateful for her friend's openness in having such tough discussions and even thanked her for checking up on Rachel while also bringing up Garrett's past controversy.
Rachel reminded Becca about Garrett's past history of liking hateful and xenophobic posts. Garrett did address the issue at the time and apologized saying his very liberal fiancé Kufrin "helped me through everything," and "when I was liking things, it was going against things she stands for and that made it really hard on us as a couple. We got through that together and we're growing."
Rachel explained to her friend Becca that this most recent post was not an "isolated incident" and that "To me, this is what Garrett thinks, this is what Garrett is. He posted a black box. He never said 'black lives matter.' He posted fists of every color, which to me is like, 'Everybody, all lives.' And then the very next post is the 'thin blue line' with a heartfelt, thought-out caption that he said with his chest. And to me, that is what you feel, and that is what you believe. I don’t think Garrett is malicious, but Garrett is what the problem is."
Garrett has shown the ability to learn and reflect like his fiancé, hopefully, some positivity comes from this situation.
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It's PODCAST TUESDAY On #higherlearning we discuss Roger Goodell's statement, de-funding the police vs. police reform and Terry Crews. On @bachelorhappyhour, we talk about problematic behavior in the Bachelor franchise and how it impacts people of color and discuss #blacklivesmatter Let me know below what you thing and check stories for swipe up link.
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Meditations of Marcus Aurelius SUMMARIZED (22 Stoic Principles to Live by) - Robin Homer's Vox Stoica Principle 7. Be Open to Correction: Being corrected is better than remaining in self deceit. You shouldn't view changing your mind as losing or that you're being coerced. It's still a free and noble action on your part to change your mind if the evidence turns against you. Just don't change it because of peer pressure or to ingratiate yourself with others. "Remember that to change your mind and to accept correction are free acts too. The action is yours, based on your own will, your own decision - and your own mind."